Valentine’s Day, Is It over Emphasized?
I am wondering if I am the only one; as I have gotten older Valentine’s Day has become increasing less important to me. When I was a teenager and in college, I had expectations like most girls that it would be great to receive something from my boyfriend like red roses and be taken out for a “romantic” dinner. Unfortunately for most guys and sometimes girls, Valentine’s Day is an unfortunate holiday. Of course, the stores and commercial enterprises don’t do anything to help the situation. We are barraged with Valentines decorations, red hearts, and Valentine’s candy soon after the Christmas decorations come down.
The holiday in my opinion is one specifically designed to set up men for failure. Most girls/women hope and hint that they want a “romantic” surprised filled night. But, the problem is those women don’t verbally discuss this with their guy and unfortunately, the majority of the time someone in the relationship ends up extremely disappointed on the coveted day of February 14th. Yes, I have been on both sides of the fence the disappointed and the disappointee.
As I have matured – and perhaps comfortable and confident in my relationship – my view on Valentine’s Day is; it is only one day of the year. Don’t get me wrong my husband is extremely romantic and he has sent me flowers at work on Valentine’s Day and we have on occasion gone to dinner on or around Valentine’s Day and I have thoroughly enjoyed it. But, what is most important to me is that he is able to express his love daily and not just on one special day of the year.
With all that being said, my advice to any young couple, don’t put too much pressure on your “significant” other to make this day magical for you. Remember the year has 364 more days left and he/she can express their love so many other times, in so many other surprising manners. It is always nice to receive a surprise on a day you least expect it.
P.S. No, Babe there is no encrypted message in this blog post; we got our wonderful Valentine present nearly two years ago and that is more than enough for me.
